Graduation: New Blog

I hope this message reaches all of my followers.  I have not stopped blogging, I've just graduated to a more mature take on things.  I matured and abandoned YSUGARCOAT.   For a long time I didn't know why I couldn't bring myself to write on this blog anymore.  Then I realized, this blog just wasn't me anymore.  I am not ashamed of YSUGARCOAT, because it does have great content.  It just happens to be a body of work that began in 2009 and is representative of a woman with the same primary interest of most 20-somethings: drinking and partying, a few social issues, and cussing more than using my vocabulary.  Don't get me wrong.  I still will cuss someone the fuck out like it's a second language, my mouth still needs a bit of soap.  I still drink, but just like my age, my palate has evolved.  Cheap club drinks in plastic cups with questionable limes have been replaced with smoked bourbon and Italian reds.  Party nights have turned to dinner parties and event passes.  Curse words turned to...meh...they're still in full effect, I just sprinkle them in with a vocabulary of words from my extensive years of schooling.  Blog topics on thots have turned into journalistic pieces on what the underlying causes of this thot phenomenon in society and all my thoughts on the topic.   What I'm trying to say is, this new blog is representative of my evolution.  So I'm bringing it here to you guys today.  #Tservestea

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P.O.P (Power of the P*ssy) Documentary Series on Magic City Strippers

National public television programing is in the shitter.  Even the reality shows are putting their predecessors to shame.  While you may be able to find me live tweeting about "Love and Hip-Hop" or any of the "Real Housewives" series, I am also at times disinhertened by the fact that in the back of my mind I am fully aware these are staged/scripted shows and there isn't much "reality" in them.

In order to get a perspective into the back drop of a world that is not commonly known about I turn to documentaries.  I'm too cheap for netflix, so I ran across the following documentary on YouTube called P.O.P (Power of Pussy) which delves into the world of the world renown Magic City strippers. 

In today's society, more people need to practice being inquisitive and curious than judgmental.  Strippers get a bad rap and are often subjected to horrendous judgment so the opportunity to learn their perspective and see things through their eyes had me hooked.  Check it below:

"Power of Pussy" is a multi part documentary series about some of the most celebrated and vindicated individuals in our culture; strippers. These women are sometimes classified as lowlifes of society, many thought to be streetwalking drug fiends with no regard for others. Some are thought to be impressionable young women, taken advantage of by men overseeing a seedy underworld. These are assumptions often made without any context from the women who live this life. This short documentary is a small look at a world many have only heard about, shedding light on how things really work for many women who have put on a g-string at some point in their lives.

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When They Ask You "Why Are You Single?"...

I will start by briefly apologizing to all of my followers/ haters/ subscribers/ ad revenue affiliates, and fans for neglecting this blog for the past 2 months.  I have had a lot on my plate personally and professionally, but I can assure you this will never happen again. Y SUGARCOAT? is back in full effect and as always we are saying whatever because we don't give 1 f*ck, 2 f*cks, red f*cks, or blue f*cks.  That's just how we roll.  SO...I wanted to return strong with a deep self analysis post which I feel can apply to anyone who constantly gets asked the question,

"Why are you single?"

...I guarantee it's a complicated response.  There are many reasons why someone may be single, but I will explain what my past reasons were as I just feel there must be several women or men who can relate to this as reasoning on some level.

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No Social Networks? You're Shady...

Google +, Tumblr, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Flickr...the options are endless.  Whether you choose to immerse yourself in every internet based social outlet or regulate yourself to just a few, social networks are a part of our culture.  They are the reason smart phones like iPhones and Droids are so popular.  Everyone wants to be in the loop with the most up to date information.  No one wants to be the one asking if someone heard about a topic that was "so 7 seconds ago."  So for this reason...you must question any individual who is TOTALLY against being on a social network.

"9 times out of 10, any individual who is under the age of 40 and is not on at least ONE social website has something to hide, is living a fake life, or is living a double life."

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Requesting What You DON'T Deserve When Dating

My homie, who shall remain nameless, asked me to discuss the following topic on this blog.  Why do people request from others what they CAN NOT do for themselves in relationships/dating?  I developed this question further to ask, why do you feel YOU deserve the type of person you are asking for?  Let me illustrate the scenario for you through words:

Scenario 1:  My friend met a girl, they had conversation, she was cute, they exchanged numbers.  Later, he found out she is living on some one's couch in between jobs.  When it came time for going on their first date, he asked her "where would you like to go?"....her response?  RUTH FREAKING CHRIS.  Now my friend, knowing she was wilding, asked her "what do you usually eat there?  I like the stuffed chicken," to which she responded "actually I've never been there before."

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Fan/Hate Mail

I don't normally entertain the hate mail I get (which believe it or not can be a lot when you run a blog shock topic blog with completely uninhibited content *sarcasm*) but today let's go ahead and address the mail.

"T$ or whatever your real name is.  I would like to ask what exactly is your blog selling?  Ideas or sex?  I would say the later.  The picture up top is soft porn at best, and it seems a lot of your biggest topics concern sex.  I read your bio on Your Black World and I am confused how you consider yourself a writer who is uplifting the Black community when you run a blog that is the epitome of what we are trying to escape.  That's real talk straight up no chaser."

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You Can't Find Love In the Club?

It is no secret, men and women have different view points on many subjects.  However, every once and awhile it's amazing me some of the stark differences in view point that each party can have on a subject.  It's conversations like these that I value and part of the reason I suggest that everyone get some true friends of the opposite sex (not one's trying to bang you) and just sit down and talk to them about all kinds of topics.  Cue the conversation I had with one of my best friends, Harry (a full blooded American straight male) last week.  Harry revealed to me the meaning of the old adage "you can't find love in the club," by telling me that men put women in categories with how and where they meet them (i.e. wifey material is not meet out at a club, lounge, or bar but by chance or through friends, work, school, etc.)  He even stated that he just can not take a girl serious he has meet in certain scenarios even after getting to know her better.  Furthermore, Harry went on to say that 90% of the men out at a club/lounge/bar are NOT relationship material...they are there to find someone to fuck.  

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